There’s a special guy in your life…
You want to spend some very special time with him, and to heat things up you know that you have to use only the hottest texts to send a guy that are sure to get the response you want.
Hottest Texts To Send A Guy 101
Sending texts can sometimes be so much more of a turn on that face to face dirty talk, because the delayed nature of text messaging means each person has time to think about the words and imagine all the naughty things that are likely to come.
Plus it gives you time to collect your thoughts and put together only the hottest of texts to send your guy which really takes the pressure off.
Figuring out the very best of hot texts to send a guy for a specific situation doesn’t have to be a challenging thing, so if you’re not confident then these starter tips and tricks will get you into the swing of things super-fast before we launch into the texts themselves!
Hottest Texts Tip – Keep It In Context
First of all think about the context of your situation.
What you send to a guy will be different depending on your situation and you should be mindful of not overstepping the mark too early.
For example, it’s out of context to send a very ‘direct’ text message to a guy you just met in most cases.
Another example of an out of context text message is sending something sexual explicit to a guy you’re dating but have not been intimate with yet.
There’s a process you should follow in building up to these things which brings us to the next point.
Hottest Texts Tip – Build Up The Tension
Even if you’re regularly intimate with your man it definitely pays to build up the tension whenever you’re sending hot flirty text messages.
Build the tension perfectly by starting slow with something almost innocent, follow with something with more subtle innuendo, and keep the flow going with some teasing as you gradually increase how explicit your texts are.
Trust me, before long your flirty text messages will go from mild to wild.
And you’ll find examples of all of these types of text messages below, so don’t worry about having to get creative all by yourself!
Hottest Texts Tip – Don’t Rush
As touched on previously, don’t be a in a rush to get right to explicit texts.
Sure, if you know the guys preferences very well and are sure he’ll be receptive to very sexually direct messages right from the outset then fire away.
However bear in mind that if he’s experiencing a challenging aspect of his day then getting something very directly explicit out of the blue could have the opposite effect you’re hoping for.
Use your gut instinct to figure out how far you can initially push it with your particular guy, and if you’re unsure then play it safe, don’t rush, and build up the tension slowly.
Hottest Texts Tip – Use Your Imagination
Don’t be afraid to put your own imaginative spin on any of the hot text message examples in this article.
Firstly, it always helps if you can make the texts your own so that they have your style and don’t sound canned.
Secondly, if you can get creative in your own unique way, especially if you know it pushes the right ‘buttons’ for your guy, it’s a great way to increase the flintiness and tension in your texts.
Be descriptive with what you write as it helps to stoke the imagination of your man, and don’t be afraid to get a little dirty with your descriptions when the time is right.
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Hottest Texts Tip – Keep The Mood Momentum
So you’re in the mood to turn up the heat with your man, and it’s important to remember that you’ll likely be getting him quite hot under the collar relatively quickly as well.
With this in mind, remember that by doing this you’ll be giving him expectations of fun times to come.
Ensure that you continue with hot-text momentum and don’t stop half way as this will damage the level of trust your guy has in doing this sort of thing with you.
Additionally, if your hot flirty texts indicate something of an intimate or sexual nature to come, you should be prepared to follow through when you and your man are alone together because of the expectations you’ve set.
It is absolutely fine if you’re not prepared to go to a certain level of intimacy, however if this is the case for you then do not make any comment or innuendo that would give him cause to think that you’ll go beyond your boundaries.
BONUS “Slow-It-Down” SECTION:
At the end of the examples below I’ve added an extra section on how to slow things down if your guy starts to escalate the exchange to a level of intimacy you’re not comfortable with.
Make sure you know your boundaries before you start sending hot flirty texts, stick to those boundaries and within your comfort zone, and use the Slow-It-Down examples if you need to
The Hottest Texts To Send A Guy Examples And Categories
Hot innocent texts can be amazing for a couple of important reasons.
Firstly, some guys simply find innocent girls really attractive.
And secondly, they’re not quite as full on as the other categories of the hottest text messages and can be laughed off without any embarrassment much more easily if your guy doesn’t respond well to flirty texts.
If you’re not a confident flirty texter yet then sending innocent texts can be a total game-changer and the options below will give you an excellent base to start from!
Scenarios where hot innocent texts are most useful:
- After a first or second date that has gone extremely well and included mutual flirting;
- When you’re learning to become comfortable with sending hot flirty texts to a guy at any stage of a relationship;
1. I can’t stop thinking about you…
2. I can’t figure out why, but my thoughts are kinda X-rated today… any ideas?
3. You know I’ve been getting a lot more flexible from yoga lately…
4. Even after I am covered in blankets, it’s freezing in here. Should I put some clothes on as well?
5. Hey, I’m wearing nothing but your shirt right now…
6. Hey babe, would you like me to wear my sporty or lacy thong tonight?
7. Too bad you’re not here right now…
8. Lying in bed bored, wish you were here to play Simon Says with me…
9. I keep having this recurring dream that you’re trying to get me naked… weird.
10. Is it weird that all I can think about is last night? I keep replaying it in my head over, and over, and over, and over…
11. I’ll be wearing my favorite earrings tonight… that’s all, just the earrings.
12. I just took the most amazing shower ever!
Half Joking Texts
If you know a guy well and share a similar sense of humor then half joking texts with a hint of humor can work extremely well.
It’s important to remember that with humor can come misinterpretation so ensure that you know the guy well before using these types of texts
Scenarios where hot half joking texts are most useful:
- With a guy you are already regularly dating or in a relationship with;
13. So, I have a few ideas for our next game night. And let’s just say there are ‘prizes’…
14. I’ve never done it in a car before. Wanna go for a drive?
15. So, did you jerk off lately?
16. If you don’t get here in the next 30 minutes I’m going to finish without you…!
17. Congratulations, you just won a coupon for doing ANYTHING with me!
Teasing & Anticipatory Texts
Teasing and building anticipation can work amazingly well for leading up to a night of ultra-hot and steamy intimacy.
If you’re going to use these types of hot texts then make sure you’re going to have time with your man soon.
If you get him all worked up and neither of you can get a proper ‘release’ of the sexual tension then he’s going to switch off to more flirty texts in the future.
So keep the momentum up and follow through!
Scenarios where hot teasing and anticipatory texts are most useful:
- Any time you’re already being sexually intimate with a guy;
- The morning after you’ve been intimate;
18. I had a naughty dream last night and guess who was in it…?
19. Waiting for you at home… 😉
20. You know that scene from the movie we watched last night? I’m thinking we need to try that out…
21. I’m naked, btw…
22. I was just thinking about you and suddenly I was completely undressed!
23. Good morning! I’m not wearing a bra today. Just thought you should know.
24. So, what should we do after our date tonight?
Give him something to think about by using hot intriguing text messages.
You’ll get his sexual imagination going which can be one of the biggest turn-ons possible
Scenarios where hot intriguing texts are most useful:
- From the third or fourth date onwards, although keep the level of sexuality in the texts in context with how comfortable you both are with each other;
25. I’d love a pic to hold me over…
26. So I had a REALLY dirty dream last night. Want me to tell you about it?
27. I wish you could sleep with me tonight to keep me warm cause all I have are my panties…
28. I was looking at sex toys today.
29. Hey, would you be mad if I kissed a girl…?
30. Get your rest babe, you’ll need all your energy for tonight.
31. Quick question: what do you do when there’s someone you can’t stop fantasizing about, but you have no idea how to talk to them about it?
32. I bet you can’t guess what I’m wearing?
33. I’ll be needing your opinion on how my new lingerie looks on me.
Straightforward & Direct Texts
There’s nothing like catching your man off guard with a blatantly direct hot and sexy text message.
Typically men like a woman who will be forward and confident sexually so it can be a huge turn on for a man if you’re very sexual direct from time to time.
Just make sure that if you’ve never sent flirty text messages to your man before that you start with something a little more tame to assess his response to this sort of dirty talk.
Scenarios where hot straightforward and direct texts are most useful:
- With someone you’re dating to get their attention immediately;
- To give him no doubt as to your intimate intentions and sexual boundaries;
34. This text is a gift certificate for whatever you want tonight. Present it at the door.
35. So I was thinking about you today, and… now I’m touching myself.
36. I bought a new toy today. Wanna try it out tonight?
37. Wanna come over and play with my body?
38. You were screaming pretty filthy words last night. Wanna scream them again tonight?
39. Guess the color of my panties correctly and you’ll get a free blow job. Go.
40. Have you ever done it in a public place? Just wondering.
41. Would you consider me hooking up with another woman cheating?
Sometimes things simply get too hot and heavy and start moving to places that you’re not comfortable in terms of the expectations that are being put on you.
In these scenarios it’s completely ok to clearly slow things down so you can stay within your comfort zone.
Scenarios where hot slow-it-down texts are most useful:
- Absolutely any time you feel uncomfortable with how sexual or pressuring the texts may be, or if you’re starting to feel obligated to go further than your present boundaries;
42. Woah, steady on big boy! 😉
43. Hah, perhaps a little risqué for me, but we can work towards it! 😉
44. Well THAT is a bit beyond my comfort zone, but I’ve definitely got some other ideas you might like 😉
45. Let’s leave THAT particular idea for the future… but in the mean time I’ve got a sexy fun idea that’ll interest you… wanna hear it?
Have you turned yourself from mild to wild with your own sexy texts? Join the conversation below in the comments section and share your tips!
All the best in life, love and happiness – Bekka
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